We control our emotions and desires every day of our lives. We do this every time we have to make a choice, or when we do not indulge in an act which brings pleasure and reward but can also cause harm. The only difference regarding sex is that sexual emotions and desires are very strong and tied up with our feelings of love. There is a tremendous anticipation of pleasure and excitement, so many people find it much harder to control them. On the other hand many people can control these by understanding what is important in life, why certain things are best done at the right time and with the right person, and the danger and risk in having casual sex with someone whose sexual history or HIV status they do not know, or by always using a condom when having sex outside marriage.
The only way to know for sure if someone is infected with HIV is through a very specific blood test designed specifically for HIV. Today, more and more boys and girls are choosing to go together to a clinic and get the test done before marriage so that they feel confident that neither is infected. This way they start married life without fear of HIV. Thereafter, by remaining faithful to each other throughout marriage they can prevent the risk of HIV. However, if either one of them breaks the one-to-one relationship and has sex with someone other than their one partner, or gets infected via blood contact, then the other partner becomes at risk for HIV infection.
There are some very simple precautions.
Latex Condoms prevent the exchange of semen or vaginal fluids in which the virus is present. However, sometimes the condom can come off during sex or can tear or are not put early enough and there is exchange of bodily fluids during foreplay. Thus, while condoms are our only means of making sex safer, they are NOT 100% safe.
The only way in which two condoms work better than one is to reduce the risk of virus going through the latex. On the other hand, unless a person is very careful and the condoms are the right kind, the chances of both of them coming off during sex or getting nicked while putting on (and then tearing during sex) are high. Our best advise is to use a good quality latex condom, and learn how to put it on correctly and at the very beginning of sexual activity -- even before foreplay. Also, one should not use petroleum based lubricants on the condoms as they weaken latex condoms.
Rajan Gupta